My heart sank today when I read that the QPR striker, Loïc Rémy has been arrested on suspicion of rape.
It sank because once again we were reminded of the rape endemic that is found in the UK. This story centers around three guys and one girl, but reminds me of the 85,000 women who are raped in the UK every year.
My heart sank because somewhere a girl has gone to the police to report a rape but we know from experience, she will face an uphill battle to bring about a prosecution. We know that even though 85,000 (or higher) women are raped each year in the UK. Only just over a 1000 men are convicted of rape – even though 90% of rape victims know the identity of their attacker.
My heart sank though because I knew people would also forget the word ‘accused’ and assume that Rémy was guilty. Although it is, statistically speaking, a small issue compared to rape, false accusations of rape have the potential to ruin a man’s life. With the 24/7 premiership media spotlight shining on Rémy, this potential is only amplified.
My heart sunk though, because I knew any subtlety in this story would fly from the window as soon as people graced their keyboards with the presence of their fingers.
Sure enough, ‘Jack Miller 1993’ decided to impart his wisdom on the matter saying:
Loic Remy been arrested on suspicion of Rape! Definitely not Guilty, probably nobbed some slag and told her to fuck off #LifeOfAFootballer—
Sir Jack Miller (@JackMiller1993) May 15, 2013
And he was not alone in gracing social media with such enlightened thoughts. This next selection of tweets were pulled at random from a torrent of rancid inappropriate comments that have been tweeted this afternoon.
Loic remy arrested for rape. Why do footballers always get into trouble like this. Oh yeah girls. #MoneyGrabbingHoes—
KieranTaylor (@k_taylor_11) May 15, 2013
It's not rape, it's just forcy fun time – Loic Remy—
SwedishGooner (@FrimpongGooner) May 15, 2013
Don't understand why you would rape someone. If you really want sex, just pay for it. It's not like Remy isn't loaded…—
JJ (@KSIOlajidebt) May 15, 2013
Remy didint do a thing! Just another slut looking for a few pound—
Aaron McDonald (@GoochTheHawk) May 15, 2013
Thousands of tweets later, all we know is that another rape has been reported in Britain and that many football fans on twitter are incapable of associating it with their own behavior.
Laura Baites writing in the Independent described the term ‘rape culture’ saying:
“I am not referring to isolated incidents, but to a widespread trend towards articles, websites and events that sexualise, objectify and dehumanise female students and women in general. I am talking about entire websites where across hundreds of articles about women not a single female name appears; they are replaced with “wenches”, “hoes”, “clunge”, “skank”, “sloppy seconds”, “pussy”, “tramp”, “chick”, “bird”, “milf”, “slut” and “gash”. They are part of a growing culture in which the sexual targeting of female students as “prey” is actively encouraged, even when it verges on rape and sexual assault. It is an atmosphere in which victims are silenced and perpetrators encouraged to see crimes as merely ‘banter’ – just part of ‘being a lad’.”
Whether or not Jack Miller realizes it, he is, by tweeting such bile with such rancid sentiment and terminology as ‘slag’, only further contributing to the rape culture in the UK.





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A message from Kampala to whoever thought up the ‘Adebayor Chant’
With a cold beer in hand I sit down on a plastic chair behind rows of chattering men. Glancing around, I see that almost everyone is wearing an Arsenal shirt - not an unusual sight in Uganda. The sun is setting and I think to myself I that I cannot imagine anywhere I’d rather be watching this north London Derby, a thought that would soon disappear.
I sit taking sips of beer and listening as people chat noisily in Luganda. With the exception of a few words I struggle to make out what people were saying so I happily sit back and let the atmosphere wash over me. The big screen is on and sit half watching the match build up and half watching the people around me chat and laugh.
I am deep in thought about how different watching football in Kampala is compared to my old haunt of the Dog Star in Brixton. So deep in fact that I don’t notice when six guys sharply turn around and look me up and down.
All six of them look straight at me. A few seconds later one of them asked, “What’s the Adebayor chant?”
I feel a prick of panic on the back of my neck. We were sitting just down the road from where the 2010 World Cup terrorist attacks took place and I had no idea why these guys were asking me.
The words of the chant run though my head as I try to buy myself time.
“Adebayor, Adebayoooooooooor, your dad washes elephants, and your mums a whore.
It should have been you, it should have been you, killed in Angola, it should have been you”
I think to myself how fucking unacceptable it is. I think about how, not for the first time, I am complicit in some football fans outrageous actions. Mostly though I think, how the fuck am I supposed to explain what ‘the Adebayor chant’ is in this situation?
Maybe spotting my discomfort, one of the guys piped up with, “Is it true that they sing about the Togo shootings?”
I lamely offer a “yeah” in response. This was getting beyond awkward.
The guys muttered a few words to each other before one asked, “Why?”
Why? Like why do British football fans think it’s acceptable to sing about a terrorist attack that resulted in one of Adebayor’s friends bleeding in his arms? Like why do they feel it is OK to throw in crass racist stereotypes as a prelude to such fucking outrageous comments? Or perhaps just why do so many fans in the stands join in?
Pathetically I muttered into my beer, “I don’t know”. The guys turned away and went back to pre-match build up. There was no bitterness in the whole exchange but it left me thinking.
One thing I pondered as I moved onto a second and third beer was how would have one of the guys who had thought up that chant have responded if they were in my situation? Would they have tried to justify their crass racism and insensitivity to terrorist atrocities or would they have sheepishly apologised?
I imagined in my mind’s eye the stereotype of a classic football thug almost spitting, “It’s just a bit of fun”. In all likelihood though, the guy probably looked just like me, young, male and football mad.
As I walked home that evening I was deep in thought. Am I responsible in any way for what happens on the terraces in the UK? Should I have apologised, criticised or critiqued the chant? In retrospect though I was predominantly feeling pissed off that these fucking morons who come up with these chants hold the power to dictate how my evening, thousands of miles away goes.
I have nothing to do with these idiots but to many people we are one of the same.
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